September 20, 2012

No-Regret Mothering

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Written by: Shari
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Life has enough regrets. It has been said that when you birth a baby, you deliver a lifetime of guilt!

May I challenge you to try to live with no regrets?

You’ll never regret leaving that floor unmopped in order to spend time putting together a puzzle. You’ll never regret the toy strewn floor or the cluttered closets. . . some day — trust me. You’ll never regret a long hug, a tossled head, a wink, an ‘I love you’ tossed after the toddler turned teenager.

Long after the echoing laughter fades like a fingerprint on the window, you’ll cherish the moments. All you really have is the moment anyway. Yesterday is a memory whose color fades, leaving a dull impression, a shadow of the moment. Tomorrow is a grand dream, a far-off rainbow promise of a moment that cannot be grasped except in wonder.

This moment is real, and in this moment are real people who can be touched, grasped, hugged, loved, and embraced — do it!

I don’t regret one contraction, one sleepless night, one more rhythm of the rocker. I don’t regret one moment spent gazing into the face of a sleeping child that I couldn’t bear to lay down. I don’t regret one dirty dish that I spurned in exchange for one more book. I don’t regret one moment of investing in slobbery, slimy, clingy, time-consuming, burdensome little blessings! In fact, it’s the one thing that has brought me the most satisfaction and contentment and joy in my life.

The work of mothering is one of the most important things you will do, and it brings the most joy. Don’t miss it by collecting regrets in exchange for squandered moments. Instead,  squander those dreary duties and collect hugs and kisses!

You won’t regret it!


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About the Author

Shari Popejoy, wife of twenty-eight years, mother of three, founder of a local co-op for hundreds of homeschool children, author of seven books, and creator of Won Without Words (a blog of encouragement for wives) lives in the quiet country of the Ozarks where she enjoys writing surrounded by nature (and her children, of course). She is currently completing Volume V of the Livingstone Library, an adventure series for 'smart' kids, which features characters with character, and underlying allegorical spiritual truths. She enjoys high places and the road less traveled, and moments when all is well, and peace permeates like a fragrance. . .oh, and chocolate, fresh fruit and veggies, and early morning sunrises. Read her blog at

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